Asking others for their opinions, seeking their advice, and inquiring about how they view a situation is a sign of respect and a pathway to building closer connections.
People want to know their views and opinions are valued. They are highly appreciative when leaders take the time and go out of their way to seek what they think on any issue. They take it as a signal that they matter.
The more talented, expert, or influential a leader is, the more impact asking others for their opinions has. People find inquiry from a leader about their views as highly flattering, self-affirming, and gratifying. Knowing a leader wants to explore their views and opinions raises self-esteem and confidence. Such a simple act. Yet, far too many leaders don’t do it nearly often enough.
Some leaders believe asking others for their views and advice is akin to declaring they need help. Others rarely ask because they are perfectly comfortable with their own views. Here’s the truth: A majority of leaders simply underestimate the power of this behavior. They fail to recognize that asking for advice, counsel, or opinions is a bonding agent stronger than glue. Upwards, sideways, and down, forging relationships is assisted with this simple act.
In a strange way, the reluctance of leaders to ask others for advice and input can actually be an advantage. Most people don’t expect it. So, when it happens, asking others for their views can have a profound influence on the development of a relationship. People so enjoy it when leaders ask for their views, they naturally find the interaction uplifting and view it as proclaiming their credibility.
The impact of this action is the same for clients, new relationships, service providers, and friends. By asking the opinions of others who aren’t expecting it, the relationship grows closer and an instant connection is created.
Count how many times you seek the opinions of others, especially when you don’t have to. The tally should rise daily. Make it a habit to ask someone else for their view or advice every day. Your relationships will be closer as a result.
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